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- статья про "ненатуральность" лолит)
Источник тот же - miss Victoria Suzanne.
Be real, dear!!!
The Beauty Myth: A Lolita Redux
The Beauty Myth: A Lolita Redux
We as lolitas often strongly feel the unspoken, society-wielded 'control' over our individuality: the continual rejection and dismissal of the lolita is in hopes of making her get back in line and behave. The people staring, the man asking if it's Halloween on the subway, and the rows of raised eyebrows. As I've previously discussed in Why Must My Public Be So Tiresome, the mainstream is constantly adjusting and hemming at the edges of society, trying to homogenize everything from fashion to politics. So when the Beauty Myth hit home in an unusual way - fear of being considered inadequate to society's beauty standards controls women in much the same way we as lolitas are afraid of being ostracized.
To bring the idea home: how many times have you felt like you'd rather stay home than go out with that monster pimple on your chin? The days you dread going out with hair that won't obey? What about days you find yourself constantly adjusting your petticoat and not meeting people's eyes? Are they different? Or as a lolita, even as we try to rebel from the mainstream, we can still be held under the spell of the Beauty Myth. Movies and television insist that only beautiful people deserve to have their stories told, or even more strictly, that stories only happen to beautiful people. And as we primarily consume magazines as a culture, we are shown that only beautiful people are lolitas - perhaps, to an extreme, that only beautiful people should be lolitas.
Now, on a logical level, we all know that's not true. Lolita is a wide fashion movement involving women from all areas of the globe, spanning the entire spectrum of appearances. If lolita fashion feels like the right way for you to dress and express yourself, then you shouldn't be barred from that just because you're not on the cover of magazine. But despite being rebellious, enlightened ladies of the 21st century, we're still taken in by the Beauty Myth. As we've seen through online confessions and secrets, it's obvious that the lolita community still has the many symptoms of the Beauty Myth: eating disorders, shapism, body dismorphic disorder, fear of aging, and competition rife with lookism everywhere. Is there any backing to this? Is this cultural structure impossible to escape, or do we have an added factor?
Lolitas chase the doll or princess ideal, at the very least that of an elegant lady. In our clothes, we strive for perfection - perfectly layered ruffles and buttons, perfectly lined-up knee high socks. In our appearance, we look for perfection also: perfectly brushed-out bangs, turned-out curls, and exact liquid liner. Hair perfection has been chased so much that wigs have been introduced to the scene, almost consuming natural hair; natural hair switches in the wind, bends out of shape, and can't hold a curl, whereas the wig always looks perfectly shaped and shiny. Photos and tutorials for natural hair are becoming fewer and farther between. False eyelashes are becoming more prevalent as well; and some lolitas never show their real nails. Perfection has made us hide our real selves in order to fit into the lolita version of the Beauty Myth. In a himegyaru documentary, one girl admits that she feels happiest when she feels 'completely artificial'. There is safety in being artificial, a complete construct of product and perfection meant only for photos and sculptures. Artificial things are perfect, and even if they are judged to be imperfect, it is something that can be fixed. Souls that are laid bare are much more vulnerable.
And what about when you are unable, for any reason, to achieve the look you crave? There are periods in lolita when girls retreat from the style, discouraged that they're not measuring up to the competition or their ideals. "It's making me depressed," I've heard friends say often. "I don't feel like keeping up with it for a while." Some return, some don't. Even I have experienced thoughts like, "I'll never get this coordinate to work," or "My hair won't do anything today, I just want to give up." There are times when you feel you aren't worthy of even the image in your head, let alone the image out there. Which is the stronger? Which holds you back more?
Is there an answer to handling the Beauty Myth? Well, yes and no. On the one hand, playing into 'being artificial' - being someone else - is a lot of fun, and perhaps some of why we like lolita and other extreme alternate fashion. You can be pink-haired or blue-haired or both with wigs; have crazy curls your own hair would never master; make your eyes look dramatic or cherubic with soft lashes. I love the artistic side of lolita - something I'd never want to give up! But on the other, not being aware of the Beauty Myth and its possible side effects has dangerous consequences. The Beauty Myth says that women are only as smart, funny, talented, or successful so long as they are beautiful - despite all else. All worth comes after our appearance. The antidote? Keep that in mind. It's easy to get trapped into that thinking as we watch the world go by, obsessed with beautiful people (celebrities, models), their fall from grace (so-and-so celebrity massively gains 55 lbs! other-celebrity gets not-so-secret nose job!), and the constant revolving circus of beauty products, anti-aging, roots, weight gain... the list goes on and on. Know that no matter what your hair, nails, clothes, skin, or body looks like today, you still have so much to offer the world. You don't have to be perfectly beautiful or even be a perfect lolita. If it's an ordinary day, I wear my real hair. Sometimes my bangs will blow around, sometimes my hair will uncurl - and it won't look perfect. But don't let this stop your from living your life. Dolls are beautiful. But they are hardly real.
Fight the myth. Be real.
@настроение:
философское...
@темы:
копипост,
флудераст - не педераст!,
лолитдыбыр,
Позитив
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27.11.2010 в 23:55Да, вот еще что по поводу критики: какой идиот додумался записать Эмили Отемн в "песенки для лолит"?? Она же ведь по большей части настоящий жесткач, только в другом плане. И сама певица кстати говорит, что не прославляет викторианскую эпоху, а всего лишь экспериментирует со стилями. Её творчество - достояние готик-субкультуры несомненно, но все эти девочки в рюшечках и Эмили с её стилем все равно что молоко с рыбой. Ты почитай хотя бы её биографию. Эмили крута, спору нет, но какая связь с лоли нафиг?
В-общем, Машунь, закачивай Cradle of filth в плеер обратно. Они тогда, получается, тоже для лолит ==^____^==
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28.11.2010 в 00:01-
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28.11.2010 в 00:09=)
ох, ну лолита - это же не только розовые-рюшечки-парик-вместо-мозга =)))
mag-Lera
Буковки советую проглядеть хотя бы по-диагонали) Они интересны, реально))
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28.11.2010 в 11:18Ну ладно бог с ней))...
Блоггерша кстати затрагивает проблему, которая есть не только в лолит-культуре, но и в косплее. У костюмеров подгонка под этот самый Бьюти Миф вообще идет самым жестким образом, притом что косплей считается тоже типа как протест и свобода от рамок. И создают этот миф самые кавайно-успешные из этого гадюшника. Всё должно быть пусть искусственно, но безупречно и крясиво. Не дай бог толстая девчонка или блэк-американ скосплеит Сефирота - всё, трендец, говном обольют на весь инет. Целые огромные сайты посвящены специально этому. Точно так же бьюти-миф говорит, что некрасивым или несоответствующим всё закрыто. Их попытки фотаться обсерают, над ними хохочут на фестах.
Короче меня, наблюдающего всё это с годами всё больше блевать тянет. И ото всех этих силиконовых свитлолит уже тоже.(